Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT)
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
There is no I in Team and there is no I in We. As a married couple the last time anything you said with an I mattered is when you said “I Do.” From that point forward You don’t matter. All of your decisions, problems, issues, and life is shared. You are now in a partnership. All of your things have become our things, all of the I want should reflect a WE need.
I headlined this week with the Bible verse that my wife and I have engraved inside of our wedding rings. We decided earlier in our relationship that our relationship and our marriage would be based on us being a team, and being equal partners. We also held strong the fact that God would be that third strand and fully integrated into our lives and relationship.
You have to make sure that you are living your life as a team. Too many times you see marriages that start out great, but then they discover that they are both too selfish, or at least one person in the marriage is too selfish. Marriage is a partnership, it is a true team sport. For a marriage to work well, both husband and wife must be equal partners. There are going to be somethings that one is better at than the other, but they will end up complimenting each other.
If you find yourself focusing only on you and the things that want, take a step back, and reset your focus. Make sure that your decisions are based on the best for both of you. Make sure that you are communicating about decisions no matter how small they may seem.
Being a team and communicating isn’t only about making decisions and money. It is about sharing responsibility. It is about working together through everything. It’s sharing the workload at home, it’s doing things together and working through even the most mundane tasks, TOGETHER.
If you have been having a rough day, you need to make sure that you are talking to your spouse. Taking time out to talk about what is going on in your life and what was good and bad in both of your days no matter how small, are the extra things that will continually bring you closer together.
Ruth 1:16-17 (NKJV)
But Ruth said:
“Entreat me not to leave you,
Or to turn back from following after you;
For wherever you go, I will go;
And wherever you lodge, I will lodge;
Your people shall be my people,
And your God, my God.
Where you die, I will die,
And there will I be buried.
The Lord do so to me, and more also,
If anything but death parts you and me.”
This week take time to focus on each other. Take time to realize the things that your other half does that keep life moving. Make sure that you thank them for the things that they do. Make sure that you show them that you appreciate all that they do. Take on some of the things that they do and give them a break. Make sure that they know you will always be there.
Be the shoulder that they need, be the ear that is there to listen and hear, be the hands that help.