Love – Ramblings of a Christian Father

Married Mondays – Noisy Reruns

Hey everybody, welcome back to Married Mondays. This week I want to talk about how things used to be. You know back when you started dating or when you were still living in the honeymoon phase of your marriage.

In our marriages, when life gets in the way, we tend to look back at how things were. We talk about the “remember whens”, and the “we used to…”We talk about the times from our past, and then we become like Dora, “I liked that too.” This is where it stops, we talk about what used to be and don’t do anything to bring a spark back. We get caught up in the noise of our daily lives, and just stick to viewing our lives in reruns.

So my challenge to you this week now that Valentine’s is over, find some other way to show your spouse how much you care. Don’t rely on just a couple days of days each year to show them how you feel, make everyday a special day. Pick a random day to relive a day you often talk about. Make sure you block out the noise that is daily life. Focus on each other, focus on a remake not a rerun.

February 22, 2016 by corymcglone

Married Mondays – Dig a little deeper

Welcome to another Married Monday everybody. I apologize now to anyone reading this with kids, as you now have a song from The Princess and The Frog stuck in your head. If not you do now. Or maybe I brought up a bad memory of 2 days ago when you had to dig a little deeper just to find your car.

Where I’m going this week, is that we need to take our communications to another level. Many times we know that something is bothering our spouse. Over time we learn their tells, we know when something is off. Too many times we get caught up in our lives, we get caught up in doing things to take our minds off of things, we work to get away from things, we leave work to get away from things. But it is when we get home, when we try to veg out, when we don’t really want to get into what is going on outside.

If you or your spouse are they type that tends to shut down and veg out, when you’ve had a rough few days, don’t shut them out. When you see this start happening in your marriage, go ahead and give the other person a little time to relax open up on their own. But don’t let too much time pass. Knowing the other person, you can tell when things are just off. It’s at this point, if they aren’t opening up, you have to start digging. Use your words wisely, and dig carefully. Not because of what you will uncover, but to continue to be thoughtful, because no matter how long you have been together, sometime things are just hard to explain. Sometimes we will shut down and not really know that we are doing it.

Dig deeper whenever things feel off. It is your responsibility to dig. It is your responsibility to call the other person on their BS, when they aren’t fully saying what is going on. When you dig, and explain what you are seeing, the release will be better for both of you. You are a team, you are there to help each other through whatever is going on.

So I challenge you this week, to watch, to dig, and to keep each other accountable. Keep each other lifted up. Keep each other communicating. Be there for each other and listen to each other

January 26, 2016 by corymcglone

Married Mondays – Plans

Welcome back to another edition of Married Mondays.

We all make plans. Before marriage we plan out our career, our future wedding, our future life, we plan what we think that person we marry will be like and who it will be. We plan in our heads what they will look like, how the engagement will happen, we plan that she will say yes… We get married and we plan our lives together, we plan for a house, we plan for family. We plan to do ______ when we have ______. We plan for the whens.

But what happens to the IFs. Many times the IF is the negative part of the process. We never really look or think about the “what ifs” in life. When you are working together as a team to “plan” for life, you have to look at the what if scenarios; What if one of us lost our job, what if we can’t have kids, what if we fight, what if a job requires us to move… These are the plans that you never want to talk about. These are the plans that will do one of two things when they have to be discussed, they will bring you closer together or pull you apart.

No one wants to sit around and plan for these what ifs but making sure that you are together is the biggest part of these plans. Making plans for life and what you want to do, finding the vision of you what you both want out of your marriage and

Working together, communicating, and staying honest are they ways that you will be able to get through anything. No matter what life throws at you, working together and keeping a strong faith in God, trusting God and trusting each other, you will be able to make it through.

January 18, 2016January 18, 2016 by corymcglone