Sit down, keep your mouth shut and your eyes open….

Over the past few weeks I have been putting in quite a few miles for work, 6 different states, 4 different sites, over 3000 miles in about 20 days.  Over this time I have had many hours to reflect on the things around me.  The one thing that I do when I am going to have to travel is to make sure that I spend the morning with the munchkin.  I take the few hours before I get on the road to keep her home from school for a bit and just have time with her.  If she wants to lay around in bed, we do that, if she wants to go get pancakes, we do that.  This is her time to have daddy to herself.

By having this time and then the time on the road I go to thinking about all the distractions we have in life.  I know I have wrote about turning the phone off, playing, listening, and all that before, but this time is a little different.  I got to really thinking about some of the things that we tell our kids; Do it this way, Color inside the lines, write with the other hand….. We try so hard ourselves to conform to society and we push our kids to conform as well.  But why not, to a safe extent, let them do what comes naturally to them.  By just observing my daughter I have seen her emmense ability to comprehend and grasp many different concepts.  The way she figures things out is amazing, the things that she understands at 4 blows my mind.  Then I started thinking about how she is able to do this, she will watch everything that we do and then act that way.  Even though I don’t think she is paying attention sometimes, or she isn’t listening, the actions that come later prove me wrong.  Also in all of the driving, I was listening to some old @Common tracks.  One track jumped out at me, Pop’s Rap II, from One Day It Will All Make Sense.  In the middle of the track, Pops is talking about how when Common was a kid he taught him more than he taught Common, with a few simple words.  It is when we shut up and listen to our kids, that we can learn the most from them.

We have all heard the saying, Out of the mouth of babes, and it is true, the most honest answer that you will ever get is from a child.

When, I was thinking about all of this, I was trying to figure out what God was trying to tell me or if it was just on my mind.  Then Sunday at Church, our Pastor was continuing our current series called Strong.  It is about having a stronger relationship with God, and doing the things that He has told us to do to build that relationship.  This week was about fasting and solitude.  And this really started to hit home, I have fasted before…. Usually when I want God to do something or show me something.  But never to do it just to get closer to Him.  Fasting is all about getting closer to God, it was laid out as something we should be doing as Christians.  It helps us to focus in on JUST God.  It is that time that we put everything else out of our way, and listen to Him.  Just like when we think our kids aren’t listening to us, Are we listening to God?  The example our pastor gave was of when you are listening to the radio, while driving down the road.  You get some stations perfectly clear, no static just pure sound; then as you go on down the road there is a little more static, and more and more and more, until finally you can’t hear that station anymore for all the static and other noise you are picking up.  In our daily lives, it may not be that we are getting farther from God, but that we have too many things fighting for our attention.  Too many things are putting static into our minds, that we think that we can hear God, but we aren’t sure.  It is our uncertainty that causes us to not act on things that He has in store for us, we get nervous, and continue with our mundane lives.

God listens to us whenever we come to Him with our whole heart, He knows what we are coming for before we ever talk to him about it.  He listens to us as if we were the only ones around, we have a direct communication line with him.  He doesn’t get distracted and bogged down like we do.  I know many of us, specifically us dad’s – lets face it we all have ADD; Will respond to our children, out of routine, with an “Uh huh”, or something of the like, when we don’t know what they really said, (We get in big trouble when we take this approach with the wife, who knows the things we really agree too.)

So I challenge you, to take an extra 20 minutes in the morning, to Shut Up and listen to God.  Then take an extra hour with no TV, no phone, no electronic interference, to talk with your kids, talk with your wife/husband/significant other, and just see how things in your life change.  Hey if nothing changes, I just saved you some electric and phone minutes, but I hope things get better.

WWYDIJWSBY – What Would You Do If Jesus Was Standing Beside You

I’m sure many of us remember the huge WWJD movement. I got to thinking recently about this and some songs from back when I was in Youth group. It’s easy to ask yourself what would Jesus do, the real question is what would you do if Jesus was standing beside you.

I admit I am guilty of this more often than I should I am a schizophrenic Christian. I am one way in church and another at my job. Taking is back to the 90’s again for a second, at the end of dcTalk’s Jesus Freak there is a part that states that “the single biggest cause of Atheism in the world is Christians, who acknowlege Jesus with their lips and deny him by their lifestyle. ”  What do the people that you work with or go to school with think of you.  Do they see you as a good Christian person, a hypocrit, or do they see you the same as the non-Christian co-worker sitting in the next cube.  We are called to be transformed from the world not be part of it.  Yes we live here, and deal with things every day, but we are called to handle things differently.

In thinking about this post, I have been thinking a lot about 2 Kirk Franklin songs; I Smile from his new album Hello Fear and The Last Jesus from The Fight of My Life.



These two songs say a lot and are good anthems to start out your day.  Listen to these songs and tell me that they don’t inspire you in some way to be a better Christian in your school or workplace.

3 yr old drawing
My 3 yr old's picture... 1 of many

Another way to look at it is; remember when you were a kid, it didn’t matter what the picture looked like, it was on that refridgerator.  It may be some scribbles but as parents we are proud of those scribbles.  What if we make everyday a day that God is proud to place up on his fridge.  Make everyday a day that all of your actions could be proudly displayed on your own fridge.

So live each day just like Jesus is standing over your back, we all act differently when when the boss in near our desk, even though God is with us at all time.

Love and Marriage

Over and over though life we hear about love.  I love _______.  You can fill in the blank with many different things.  For me  I love, God, my wife, my daughter, etc.  In today’s world though we get such twisted views of love.  We don’t have all the other words that other languages have.  We use the word love for the feelings we have for our spouse, kids, that cheeseburger at lunch.  It just doesn’t have the same meaning even though it is the same word.

But when we think about the love that you have for your spouse or loved ones, we think of the type of love that would go to the ends of the earth for the other person.  It is this love that makes you say that you would do anything for that person, you would be willing to give your life for that person.  This is what we hear about so much in songs and in movies, the guy saves the girl from the car at the last second, or the line from the Bruno Mars song, I’ll catch a grenade for you.  The fact that I would risk life and limb for my wife and daughter is a no brainer.

The main question to ask yourself when you know that you are in love, is not if you would stop a bullet for the other person or stop a run away train.  Ask yourself if at the end of your longest hardest day, are you willing to tell your wife go relax let me do the dishes, let me run the sweeper.  True love is looking at the relationship from both sides as an 80/20 split, I can take care of my wife, ensuring that her needs are met and she gets what she needs to be happy.   This fulfills my 20 percent for myself and lets her know that in everything that I do I am think of her.

Remember these things next time you tell someone you love them, and think of how you really mean it.  Look at the one you love and tell them that not only would you die for them, you will do the dishes or clean the bathroom.  Find out that one thing that they hate doing but have to, and do it for them, even though you hate it more.
And He said to him, ” ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’38“This is the great and foremost commandment.39“The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’40“On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”
Matthew 22:37-40 (New American Standard Bible)