When it comes to our kids, I know that any of us would do anything for them. We try to protect them in every way that we can, we try to give them a better life than we had. In doing so, we have raised a generation of wimpy vultures. Bullies today are not the same as bullies back in the day. Back when I was in school if having to deal with a bully, it stopped at the end of the school day, and it was one maybe two people. Now, you have groups of “mean kids”, that will pick on kids at school and then it becomes cyber bully time. It no longer stops, even the kids that aren’t bullies at school become bullies behind a keyboard. We all know that kids can be mean, and we also know that kids discover these behaviors from somewhere.
That is why no matter how much you want to blame the schools, the administration, coaches, etc., it starts at home. Parents we need to be involved with our kids. We need to be in our kids lives, not just being around, not just running them to their events, but truly involved. We need to know who their friends are, we need to know what they are doing when they are out. We also need to know who and what they are online. With the illusion that our kids need to be themselves, and that they need to have their privacy, so that they are free to be themselves, we lose our kids to the world. When as parents, we lose touch with our kids, or we excuse ourselves from their life, we have no right to blame others for what our kids do or don’t do. Now don’t think that I’m saying to go read your kids diary or journal, but we do need to know what is going on in their lives. Spend time talking to them, they aren’t going to be excited about this, but communication is key.
At the end of the day, our kids take after us. If we don’t parent our children, how can we ask others to do so. We have to set a proper example for our children in all that we do. If you find yourself always posting negative comments online, especially when it has nothing to actually do with you, or you never have anything very positive to say about anything, you might be encouraging your child to be a bully, both online and in real life. If you are talking about things with your kids, and setting a proper example, maybe we can stop some of this senseless violence, bullying, and suicide among young people in our world.