Target Focused Dads and Husbands – Groupings and Consistency

At least they are on the paper…

After knowing where your shots are landing, only then you can work on your consistency, your groupings. Groupings are what many of us are simply going for when we go to the range. Are you getting a jagged hole, a clover, are they all in the A zone, did they all hit the plate? What kind of grouping are you going for? If you are just trying to hit the paper, then maybe you aren’t ready to be focused on grouping your shots and improving your consistency. Once you are focused on the idea of “aim small miss small” and you are focused on taking your time and repeating the same actions over and over, then you are building a discipline and habit. The tighter the group, the more consistent you are, the more focused you are, the easier it will be to move on to the next steps of being on the right target and being centered on that target.

What are you aiming for?

As we go through our lives, we develop habits whether we want to or not. Some of these are good habits, some are not so good. These grouped actions, shape our lives, our friendships, our relationships, our marriages, and our families. If you are not consistent, your relationships are going to suffer. If your word, your work, and your actions are all over the place, it will be hard for people to trust you. The people affected are your co-workers, your spouse, your kids, your family, nothing is going to affect just you. Sometimes it might be your actions that affect someone else in a way that you did not expect. If you look at the story of David bringing the ark back in to the city that I referenced in the last post,(2 Samuel 6:1-7, 12-15 and Exodus 25:10-15) David’s actions and desire to move the ark back was good, but he was not doing it the way it should be done. Yes, they were able to start moving it, yes, they got it closer to the city faster with the cart, but God didn’t want it moved that way. God had given specific instructions on how the Ark should be built, moved, who should move it, ages before David ever needed to move it back.

As we take the time to figure out where our shots are landing and how consistent our shots are, we can move that consistency on to the proper target, to the proper place on the target.

Shifting our focus, shifting our priorities, allows us to get into proper alignment. Once we have started to shift our groupings, shift focus, and start to make improvements we will make our lives and the lives of those we love better, eventually. It’s not going to be easy, there are going to be things that continue to fight for our attention, life is going to happen, things aren’t going to go right every day. The true test of our consistency comes from these chances to prove our faith and our training. When issues arise, our training or lack of training will be evident. When we have been consistent in growing in our faith, in growing our relationship with God, and with our family and our support groups, we will be able to go through tough times and come out on the other side. I’m not going to say that you will come out unaffected, but you very well could come out of the fire not smelling like smoke. The more consistent you become, and as you start to move to a better place, you start to focus on the target, you will have to be prepared for attacks from the enemy. These attacks may not be extremely obvious, it could be just that you get to a point where you have more and more on your plate and small things that need pieces of your time. Keeping your priorities in line, and keeping up your consistency, is the only way to win these battles.

Pray in the fire.

“…be earnest and disciplined in your prayers.”

1 Peter 4:7b

So with that, I challenge you to work on your habits over the next few weeks. Work to be more consistent in your prayer life, in your time spent with God, and be intentional in the time you spend with your family. Be intentional watching for those things or those people that pull you away from being consistent, and move them out of your way.

Next post we will talk about being on target, not just on paper and grouped, but what it means to really be grouped near the center of the target.

Target focused dads and husbands

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Something that has been on my mind for a while is a series of thoughts for us dads and husbands to help us shift/readjust/refocus our lives better on what God wants us to do. We are called to lead our families. Some of us had really good role models, others may have had role models who showed us what not to do, and in other cases, we saw what not to do but didn’t know any better and thought that was the usual way of doing things. Hopefully, if you are reading this and are/were in that last category, you know that God brought you to this page for a reason.

As dads and husbands, we need to be leaders and examples within our families and to those around us. Older husbands and dads need to take the time to mentor new husbands and new dads. As a young dad, I had no clue what I was doing. Luckily, I had seen other dads in my life support their wives and daughters, preparing me to be a “girl dad.” That’s the point of me taking time now to sit and write out these thoughts that I feel God has put into my heart and mind. I want to be that support for another dad out there that isn’t sure what to do, or that husband that isn’t sure what step is next.

Over the next few posts I plan to expand on the following 4 concepts:

Be On paper – Use God’s word to know that you are going the right way. If you aren’t even hitting the paper, you have no idea what direction you are going. Also looking at this a something that we as men hate to do, read directions. God has already laid out so many plans, templates, frameworks, for our lives. We are just typically too stubborn to check the directions.

Get Grouped – Once you are hitting paper, you have to be consistent. Develop a habit of staying in the word, get into groups with other dads and husbands, start into reading plans on the YouVersion Bible app. Work on improving you direction and consistency

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Be On target – You’ve gotten on paper, you’ve put together some good groupings, now it’s time to make sure that you are actually hitting the main target. Some of us may be happy enough just putting consistent shots on a steel plate and hearing that satisfying ting. But how far out is that target? What happens when hitting that target becomes too easy and we get bored? Do we get too relaxed and start missing?

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Get Centered – Hitting the Bullseye. Let’s face it, no matter how long you have been shooting guns, archery, throwing darts, there is a satisfaction that comes from placing that perfect shot or throw dead-center, when you put a few grouped right together, you can feel invincible. But don’t get too proud, because that next shot might be a out of true arrow, a lighter load, a bent vane, and that perfect score just got a miss or a 2. Staying centered, but being able to recover when you make a mistake is going to be the critical when going though life.

Everything I hope to get out during this, is about recovering from that bad shot. Having a group of other people, other dads, other husbands around you, that can help you get back on target, or maybe get on target for the very first time, is critical. We all need a person or persons in our life that is going to help us make corrections, especially when they are correcting things that we can’t even see that we are doing.

That’s it for this post. Be sure to check back in soon for the next part of this series.

—Cory

Reset, Reflect, Refocus

Welcome to 2017.  I know I’m a few days late, and it’s been a while since I’ve posted.  I’m looking forward to this year being a year of amazing things.  2016 was a 2016 of a year, but like all the years that came before it, it had its ups and downs.  It’s all in how you want to look at the year you just left and the year you are going into.  We are 9 days in as of today, and if you are reading this, guess what, you are alive and have the internet.

I challenge all of you reading this to change YOU this year.  You are the only thing that YOU can control.  I titled this post: Reset, Reflect, Refocus for this main reason, we are 9 days into the year, and many of us have already forgotten the resolutions that we made, or didn’t make, or life has been life already these 9 days in.  So my challenge to you is to wake up everyday and reset your mind again.  Wake up with the attitude that today is gonna be a good day.

Reflect every night and everyday about what God did for you during that day and the day before.  Can’t think of anything?  Are you somewhere warm and dry?  Did you eat?  Did you find a parking spot at the mall?  Look back not only on the previous day, but on your previous days, months, years.  Look back at your history book with God.  The last time your electric was about to be shut off but wasn’t, the last time your car was running on fumes and you coasted into the gas station, the last time you were in the drive through and the person in front of you paid for your meal.  When was the last time you did something for someone else?  God, provides for us, not because we give to those we don’t know, not because we deserve it, not because of our actions, not because we are or aren’t “good” enough.  God provides for us, because he loves us.

As we start out this year refocusing on what is actually important, we can make the best out of our lives and situations.  Refocus your life, and check your priorities.  Make sure that you know why you are doing what you are doing, and that you haven’t just become a cold machine, that goes through the motions of life.  Look back on what you have been through, and figure out what you are going to let God do to improve the life’s of those that love you, and those that don’t even know you yet, through you.

Sometimes life is about taking the sourest lemons life has to offer and making something resembling lemonade…