Married Mondays – Thankfulness

All over social media the past couple weeks, people have been posting days of thankfulness.  It’s this time of year that people are focusing on what they are thankful for.  It’s this time of year that we are spending more time in the next 45 days with family than many of us have all year.  But holidays aren’t what I’m talking about this week.  I truly hope that you aren’t only expressing your thankfulness for your spouse this time of year and just because your friends on Facebook are saying what they are thankful.

As life catches up with you, days, weeks, months may go by without you telling your spouse that you are thankful for them.  You probably tell them you love them every day, but are you saying this out of habit and are you just going through the motions of marriage.  It is easy over time to become complacent and accidentally start taking each other for granted.  We must daily and whole heartedly make sure that our spouses know how much we love them and how thankful we are for them.

Taking each day, making it special, and recognizing the good things that happen every day.  Even the worst days, have a bright moment.  That moment of thankfulness in the day might not come until you get back home, or until you get that phone call right at the perfect time.  No matter how bad you think that your day has been, there is always someone who has it worse.  We live in a nation of “First World Problems,” we live in a time that has forgotten how to be thankful.  We live in a time, that we easily get lost in wanting.

So this week, my challenge to you, is to take the time to stop and look around at what you have, who you have in your life, and reflect on your blessings.  Each day find at least one thing to be thankful for, and share it with your spouse.  Find something everyday that your loved one does that goes unnoticed and make sure that you recognize it.  Take time together to write down things that as a couple you are thankful for, write down what you are thankful for in your relationship, and remember each day that you have someone that loves you, and that is at least one thing to be thankful for.

by corymcglone

Married Mondays — United

Welcome back to another Monday!  I’ve gone back and forth on what to talk about this week.  I’ve finally went with being United.  To me this takes being a team, being partners, being there, to another level.  When you get married you are referred to as one mind, one body, and one soul.  You are United.  You stand together as Mr. and Mrs.  You are now one unit.  Again, you will have different strengths and weaknesses, you will have different opinions on things at times, but when it comes to big things you must be united together.

Standing up for something, believing in something, standing strong together, is how to truly build you relationship and shape the future for generations to follow.  It is being united as parents, that shape your children’s futures.  Just being partners in your marriage works for a period of time, then for many that season of life ends and another season starts with a new life coming into yours.  Now the decisions have gone from what do you and I need, to what do WE need.  Life changes.   The partnership and sharing of responsibility now becomes, who is changing the diapers, the diaper genie, doing the 3 AM feeding…  Face it if it’s both of you together that’s great but at some point someone is going to be in someone’s way.

And it’s easier as the kids are younger, but even at an early age, your kids will know if you aren’t united.  If one is the “fun” parent and one isn’t, kids are going to play at that.  They don’t know that they are picking one over the other, their kids they want to have fun and be kids.  And kids are kids, not bargaining chips, not leverage.  Your kids are going to model their future relationships off of what they see in your house.  If that is a life of manipulation and fighting, they are more likely to go toward that type of relationship in the future.  If they see parents, that are truly in love with each other, that take time for each other, and time for the kids, that show that they know where the proper priorities are, they are more likely to have a relationship that is long lasting.

I am very happy to say that my wife and I both come from families that were like that.  After around 30 years or more of marriage, our parents are still together.  We had great examples growing up, and I feel that is why our marriage has been successful up to this point.  We saw what it looked like, to work as a team, stick to decisions, and be dedicated to each other.

This week I challenge you to make sure that you and your spouse, are on the same track.  Make sure that you have the same vision for your family.  Make sure that you are setting the example for your kids, of what a God filled, love filled marriage looks like.  And if you still can, thank those you helped shape your marriage and your life.

Thank you Bob and Deb and Rick and Jazmina, for shaping us and being an example of how to work through things and be united.

by corymcglone