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Married Mondays – Dig a little deeper

Welcome to another Married Monday everybody. I apologize now to anyone reading this with kids, as you now have a song from The Princess and The Frog stuck in your head. If not you do now. Or maybe I brought up a bad memory of 2 days ago when you had to dig a little deeper just to find your car.

Where I’m going this week, is that we need to take our communications to another level. Many times we know that something is bothering our spouse. Over time we learn their tells, we know when something is off. Too many times we get caught up in our lives, we get caught up in doing things to take our minds off of things, we work to get away from things, we leave work to get away from things. But it is when we get home, when we try to veg out, when we don’t really want to get into what is going on outside.

If you or your spouse are they type that tends to shut down and veg out, when you’ve had a rough few days, don’t shut them out. When you see this start happening in your marriage, go ahead and give the other person a little time to relax open up on their own. But don’t let too much time pass. Knowing the other person, you can tell when things are just off. It’s at this point, if they aren’t opening up, you have to start digging. Use your words wisely, and dig carefully. Not because of what you will uncover, but to continue to be thoughtful, because no matter how long you have been together, sometime things are just hard to explain. Sometimes we will shut down and not really know that we are doing it.

Dig deeper whenever things feel off. It is your responsibility to dig. It is your responsibility to call the other person on their BS, when they aren’t fully saying what is going on. When you dig, and explain what you are seeing, the release will be better for both of you. You are a team, you are there to help each other through whatever is going on.

So I challenge you this week, to watch, to dig, and to keep each other accountable. Keep each other lifted up. Keep each other communicating. Be there for each other and listen to each other

January 26, 2016 by corymcglone

Married Mondays – Plans

Welcome back to another edition of Married Mondays.

We all make plans. Before marriage we plan out our career, our future wedding, our future life, we plan what we think that person we marry will be like and who it will be. We plan in our heads what they will look like, how the engagement will happen, we plan that she will say yes… We get married and we plan our lives together, we plan for a house, we plan for family. We plan to do ______ when we have ______. We plan for the whens.

But what happens to the IFs. Many times the IF is the negative part of the process. We never really look or think about the “what ifs” in life. When you are working together as a team to “plan” for life, you have to look at the what if scenarios; What if one of us lost our job, what if we can’t have kids, what if we fight, what if a job requires us to move… These are the plans that you never want to talk about. These are the plans that will do one of two things when they have to be discussed, they will bring you closer together or pull you apart.

No one wants to sit around and plan for these what ifs but making sure that you are together is the biggest part of these plans. Making plans for life and what you want to do, finding the vision of you what you both want out of your marriage and

Working together, communicating, and staying honest are they ways that you will be able to get through anything. No matter what life throws at you, working together and keeping a strong faith in God, trusting God and trusting each other, you will be able to make it through.

January 18, 2016January 18, 2016 by corymcglone

Married Mondays — Busy

Happy Monday everybody. We have just come out of some very crazy times with the Holidays. Many of us spent many days or hours on the road. Many may have wished to go back to work, or just to get some place quiet.

busy

busi·er busi·est

1a : engaged in action : occupiedb : being in use <found the telephone busy>

2: full of activity : bustling <a busy seaport>

3: foolishly or intrusively active : meddling

4: full of distracting detail <a busy design>

So many times, when someone asks how things are going, the go to answer is either good or I’ve been busy. Being busy becomes our excuse for not doing somethings. Being busy becomes our normal, we rationalize our busyness, and let it over take us. We get to the point in our days and our lives that everything is scheduled. We plan out our meals, our days, our weeks, we work around practices here, concerts there, events, meetings, etc. But at what point have we become too busy for ourselves and our loved ones. Out of the 24 hours in a day, if you are asleep for 8, at work for 9, and traveling for 1, you have 6 hours left in the day for eating, showering, chores, events, classes, and family.

You have to make sure that the your busy life, is proper activity. Are you just busy to be busy? Take a deep breath and make sure that your priorities are in line.

If you are finding yourself not knowing what day or time it is, finding your self not knowing the last time you took 30 minutes to talk to your spouse. Don’t get to the point that you are so busy that you become strangers. Make sure to take time EVERY day to catch up with each other. There are some days that some things just don’t get done, and they will be there tomorrow.

Don’t let yourself get too busy with all of the noise in life that you miss out on who is right in front of you. Go to bed 30 minutes early, but stay off the internet, keep the TV off, and put the book away, and be there with each other. Be present, take the last 30 minutes or more of your day to slow down. At the end of the one thing that you can’t get back is time with family, time with your spouse, time with those you love.

January 12, 2016 by corymcglone