Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas everyone. I want to just take a moment and thank everyone who has taken time to read my random thoughts through out the year. It has been a crazy year, with many ups, downs, and confusion but at the end of the day, we have always known that God was in control.

Take this time that you have, to spend time with those you love. Remember that this day and season is not about the presents, it’s about the time we have with family and the ultimate gift that God gave us many years ago.

Merry Christmas from the McGlone Family.

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Senseless….

I know that this may not make a lot of sense, and this post is so scattered.  But I just need to vent this….

This is the season that for many of us, is a joyous fun time.  We get together with family, we take small trips, we remember all that we have to be thankful for, we remember all of our blessings.  But as I sit here writing this, the father of a Kindergartner, and the Husband of a teacher, my heart is breaking for the families that have lost their children today.

This year in multiple senseless acts, too many people have lost fathers, mothers, children, friends.  I cannot even begin to imagine, the grief that these families are feeling as we come into the holidays.  Over the next few days, many people are going to try and link these acts to how the person was raised, or gun control, or the music they listened to, or a myriad, of other psychological things.  No matter what it gets linked to, the only thing that remains that there are now empty holes in too many homes.

Tonight across America, I know that there are parents holding their kids tighter, hugging them longer, grieving for those other families.  Also across America, many people are heading to churches to pray for those families, and to seek God in these times.  It is my hope and prayer, that for many of us we take this sobering experience, and realign our priorities.  Don’t let this be the one time this week, that you snuggled up with your kids and read a story, or had a “sleep-over.”  Don’t let this be the one time that you put away the cell phone, stepped away from email.  We need to examine what matters in our lives.

Life is way to short, spend what time you have with the ones you love.  And as we go into the Christmas holiday, remember what Christmas is really about.  It’s about God’s gift to us, His love for us, His Son.  Spread Love, spread Joy, spread Hope.  Remember, that no matter what we may feel or what the world may tell us, God is with us, even when it seems he isn’t, he is there.

God, I don’t understand why these things happen.  I just know, that these families need you right now.  Please send you Holy Spirit around them.  Be their comfort, Be their hope, bring them piece.  Help them as they go through these trying times, You are the Rock, and the Shelter.  You are our stronghold, Father, I praise your name through everything.  Amen.

Overheard at lunch

We all know the joys of eating in a food court. Wide selection of food and some conversations more interesting than most tv shows. So this is a good one I heard today(slightly paraphrased):

Conversation with mother and daughter:
Mommy will I ever be the boss if you?

No. Because I’m the mommy and we are the boss of our children.

Oh. Why do you like being the boss is much?

I just like it. I liked being the boss when I was little, I was the boss of your daddy when we got married, and then once I got used to that we wanted to have a child so I could be the boss of them. Someday when your married and a mommy you will call me and say this is so great.

That will be a long time. I can’t wait!

Ahhh women. It runs in their blood, and they teach them early.

The best girls

 

Don’t worry, it will pass…

It’s a part of life, we all have things that we worry about.  But there are only so many things that we can actually do something about.

Stress and Nail biting

This post has been running around in my head for a few weeks now, but wasn’t ready till last week, and I’m just now finding the time to get this all out.  But we just finished up a series at Church called Courageous.  We touched on the stories of David, Gideon, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, Benaiah, and Jonathan.  Bible heros who didn’t go with what everyone else was doing and what was easy.  They went against the grain of what everyone else was doing at the time.

The main point of all of these stories was that these people did not do what was expected of them.  These are my favorite type of bible story, God using the unexpected to do amazing things.  David and GoliathWe all know the stories of David, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, God using young men to defeat a Giant that had everyone in the nation scared, and to change the mind and direction of a king.  You see these people weren’t worried, because they knew what God was capable of, and what God had done in the past.  It’s not a matter of knowing what God might do, it’s having faith in what you know he can do, and having the mentality to keep on going even if what God does is not in your favor.

One of our pastor’s main points in this series was to look back at your history book with God.  Look back at a time in your life and look at what God did then, and now that your in the same situation, why wouldn’t God do the same for you now.  So many times we get caught up in the situation that we don’t look back, or the situation is disguised as something completely different.

Fighting the giant

It’s these times in our lives that we have to just remember that God is always there and the He will always provide.  There have been a few times in the past few years that I have just felt an absolute peace in my life and my families life.  In all honesty, they were times when conventional wisdom would say, you should be concered, but I knew that God had worked this out this way for some reason.  A few years ago this happened right after I had been laid off from job, and another is right now, when my wife quit her job to do her student teaching.  Both of these times we were down to one income, now we have a child and we are on one income, but at no point have we had issues.  We knew that God has is hand in both of these situations, and even though we couldn’t see it at first, the end results were amazing.

Pray for it

So my advice, to anyone reading this, if you can change the situation to make it better, go for it.  If there is nothing you can do, pray for it.

What a difference a Y makes…

It starts 9 months before birth.  In the very formation of your life it is determined if you will someday get the opportunity to be a Father, and even better than that a Dad, and even better than that to be called Daddy.  It is a Y that determines the gender of a baby as it is still forming in the mother’s womb.  But the Y later turns a good name, Dad into a heart melting name Daddy.

We have all seen and or heard the saying that “Any man can be a Father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy,” and we all know that this is true.  The difference in the names just feels so much different even though they may refer to the same person.  We also hear the non complementary terms about dads; dead beat dad, absentee dads, estranged father, etc.  Then we hear people talk about single fathers, and stay at home dads, and the praise that goes along with those titles.  But what I want to talk about is what I was blessed to have, what my wife had, a Dad that’s there.

We live in a culture now that the majority of kids are growing up with only one parent or between parents.  Then we also have the families that are “in-tact” but not everyone is present.  A kid needs a dad that is there.  Dads need to be there for their kids, not just show up to things, but put up and shut up where our kids our are involved.

Fist Fish with Papaw
First Fish with Papaw

As I said above, and I have said before, I was very blessed to have a dad that was there for everything.  He was my soccer coach, he was my boss, my teacher, scout leader.  He was there for everything, he taught me how to work with my hands, how to respect people, how to work hard for what you want, and how to be a good dad.  These are all lessons that I could have learned from somewhere or someone else, but he knew it was his job and responsibility.

Mari and Daddy
4 yrs Ago
Mari and Daddy
Last Weekend

And I don’t understand how a man, and I will use the term loosely in this case, can beat, neglect, or just leave their kids.  The first time that my daughter said daddy, actually the first time I held her, I knew that I had something special.  You other dads can’t tell me that when one of your kids says, Daddy jump please, you don’t say how high and how many times.  Now I’m not saying its good to let the kids control things, but it’s just something about the “Daddy, …” along with a look that can make the hardest man melt.  When a child says “Dad..” it doesn’t carry the same weight.  It’s the Y that gets added to it, and makes the whole difference.

Happy Father’s Day to all the great Dads out there.  Enjoy the day and enjoy your kids.

Whats your love?

To wrap-up this series, I thought it only fitting to do a post about Love on this Easter weekend.  I know that people everywhere will be blogging about Love and Passion and God this weekend, but I wanted to take this a slightly different way from the way I have written about love in the past.

World English Dictionary

love  (lʌv)
— vb
1. tr ) to have a great attachment to and affection for
2. tr ) to have passionate desire, longing, and feelings for
3. tr ) to like or desire (to do something) very much
4. tr ) to make love to
5. intr ) to be in love
— n
6. a. an intense emotion of affection, warmth, fondness, andregard towards a person or thing
b. ( as modifier ): love song love story
7. a deep feeling of sexual attraction and desire
8. wholehearted liking for or pleasure in something
9. Christianity
a. God’s benevolent attitude towards man
b. man’s attitude of reverent devotion towards God
10. Also: my love  a beloved person: used esp as an endearment
11. informal  ( Brit ) a term of address, esp but not necessarilyfor a person regarded as likable
12. (in tennis, squash, etc) a score of zero
13. fall in love  to become in love
14. for love  without payment
15. used with a negative for love or money  in anycircumstances: I wouldn’t eat a snail for love or money
16. for the love of  for the sake of

I went to dictionary.com and there are even more definitions than what I have listed here.  Then when you do a search at biblegateway.com there are 484 references of the word Love.

John 3:16

New American Standard Bible (NASB)

   16 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His [a]only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.

Footnotes:

  1. John 3:16 Or unique, only one of His kind

What better show of love is there than what God did for us?  God gave up a piece of himself, as a sacrifice for us to be able to spend eternity with him.  So many times we get a distorted idea of what love really is.  We use the word love about so many different things, we love songs, we love cars, movies, tv shows, etc.  But when it comes to loving people, and being in love with someone, the feeling of love comes and goes.  Look at the high rate of divorce in our country, and when you talk to people that are divorced or separated, a lot of times you will hear them say that they just fell out of love.

But what God did for us, is the type of love that we should be striving for.  True love and passion for God and for others is love that gives up part of yourself, to benefit the other person.  In most cases, the other person will give back and give up part of themselves for you.  A true relationship is not one-sided, and too many times this is not the case, one side does all of the giving.  Too many times we take advantage of the gift of Love that God has given us.  God has only asked for us to listen and follow Him, to love our neighbors as ourselves.  We have so much to be thankful for and so little to do, to show our love back to God.

What are you willing to give up to follow Christ?  What part of yourself are you willing to give up for your spouse, family, friends?   Are you willing to go out of your way to do something for them, to step out of your comfort zone?

Love is not easy, it is to be cherished and fought for.  Jesus told his disciples, that the world would hate them, but to remember that it hated Him first.  And in marriages, you must always be willing to fight to keep your love alive.  The day that you say, “It can’t happen to us…”, is the day that trouble will begin.  You must guard your heart and guard your love.  Stand up for love, and for what matters in life.

God was will to have His own Son die, to show His love for us, what else is there to give up….